D:O! is hosting a guest post of mine on Paul Bley. They really nailed all the links; wow! Make sure to listen to the La Roca drum solo from the McLean album.
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During the era of my greatest Bley fixation one of my very best friends at Menomonie High was the incomparable Wilson Hall. Wilson and Krister Johnson (aka Jeremiah Smallchild and Gideon Lamb) have a brand-new book out: What Would God's Pottery Do?: The Ultimate Guide to Surviving Your Teens and/or Being Successful!
(Wilson is playing the "hand percussion.")
Admittedly, I'm biased, but honestly this book is hilarious. Here's a bit on how to talk to Dad:
You may feel that you don't know what your dad wants from you, but maybe the problem is that he doesn't know what you want from him. That's why it's important when interfacing with your father to use Positive Reinforcement to let him know that he's doing a good job and the way you appreciate everything he does...even if you don't. In this particular case, that's not lying, it's called "acting like a grown-up."
Jeremiah recently had a very positive interaction with his father that illustrates how useful this technique can be. Here's an excerpt:
JEREMIAH
What is that masculine scent?! Are you wearing a new cologne?
JEREMIAH'S FATHER
Oh, that's just an analgesic balm to help with my bursitis.
JEREMIAH
I'd never even know you had bursitis if you hadn't told me!
JEREMIAH'S FATHER
Sometimes I wonder what the point of all this is.
JEREMIAH
"This...?"
JEREMIAH'S FATHER
[WAVES ARMS AROUND TO SIGNIFY "EVERYTHING"]
JEREMIAH
[PAUSE]
I hear you![PAUSE]
Want to watch Knight Rider with me?
JEREMIAH'S FATHER
Talking cars...the world has really gotten away from me.
Fathers often don't show their emotions easily, so don't be discouraged if your conversation doesn't go as well as Jeremiah's did.
Go to the God's Pottery site for more info like videos and tour dates, etc.